Tuesday, November 11, 2008

I've become The Cat Lady




In the St. Roch neighborhood of New Orleans, my cousins and I would often leave the safety of Grandma's house to go on adventures. The neighbors thought we were a nuisance, but grandma never asked what we did, and we didn't tell.

There are a thousand stories I have to tell about those days, but this blog is not about that. It's about the old lady we used to make fun of. She hated people, especially noisy, nosy children, but she had a houseful of cats. There were cats in every window, every open doorway, outside, in the alley...wherever you looked, there were cats. We never asked her name, because she always "shoo'd" us away. We just called her "The Crazy Cat Lady". There's one in every community, you know. You just have to know where to look.

Down here in Chalmette, Louisiana, you only have to look at my trailer, and in my yard. You'll see me there, feeding cats twice a day. I've become that lady. I don't shoo children away, but I do get involved with the cats, talking to them, trying to get them used to humans, rudely lifting tails to see who's female and who's male. I'm cataloging them for Animal Rescue of New Orleans.

I have a seperate porch to feed cats. Animal Rescue brings me HUGE bags of food periodically to help me feed the cats. We're trying to get appointments to get the females spayed, if we can trap them. Most of them are feral or semi-feral. I didn't ask for the cats. I nursed a few kittens whose mother died, and word got out that I was a sucker. As humans started leaving, cats started showing up at dinner time. I swear, that's how it happened.

Kat Mama, a white cat with black markings, is the sole survivor of Katrina in the Packenham Mobile Home Park. Soon after we moved in, we realized that the place was overrun with rats. We could hear them gnawing at our trailers at night. Then a big old Siamese Tom came a-courtin' Katrina (soon to be re-named Kat Mama), and the litter that came from that union grew up and chased the rats away.

So, people around the park started feeding the cats. Not me. I had my own cat companion (named CoCo) to feed. Life was good for a while. Then FEMA started finding apartments for some of the people who had been in the FEMA trailers. And they left...without the cats. As each person left, I found another cat or two hanging around my door, meowing pitifully. I had to start feeding them.

Well, there are only a handful of FEMA trailers left of the fifty that were once here, and I now have a colony of 20 cats to feed. I hope the stupid MySpace slide show is working up there...if not, go to my pics and look for "Katrina Kats" to see a few of them.

It's not nice to watch little ones die because their young mothers left them or got killed on the highway. It's not nice to see a young female mourn when she delivers prematurely and can't stir her dead kittens. It's not nice to wake up at two in the morning to go outside and chase a tomcat away who is raping the females. If you look at the photos and see a little white and red tabby kitten, smaller than my hand, that's Peanut. She lived about a week and a half. She was just too weak by the time I dug her out from under my trailer. She didn't take to the bottle well. Her brother and sister survived and were adopted, but she died one day while I was at work. Eddie kept her inside with him and tried to warm her with his own body, but she died there in his lap.

And just last week, I found a dead newborn kitten who had tried to follow his mother and got caught in the skirt around my trailer. His mother couldn't pull him out, and he died there.

Please help us. Here in St. Bernard Parish, the interest and the funds have dried up. There are no traps left to help me catch the cats. We're depending on strangers to donate food. I'll have to pay at least $10 or more to have each cat altered. Some of them need vet care.

These are the people who are helping me, and who can use your help:

Animal Rescue of New Orleans

Please visit their website and see what you can do. ~ Rhonda

Saturday, September 02, 2006

No Going Home

alligator on the road
trying to get back home
after the sea swept him away
head crushed by a truck
fourteen feet of dead reptile
keeping the deer and hog company
on I-510, the road to the Third World, USA

at the checkpoint
we saw a crucifix
sucked from it's holy home
by the backwash of a storm surge
too powerful to argue with
it's the way of God to put
sacred objects into perspective

below the crucifix
a sign tells us in
Official Orange Spray Paint
to keep the faith
and we knew then
there was no going home

mud-filled streets
crushed houses
with Official Orange Paint
indicating how many people dead
how many animals found
and when the house was searched
military presence
the only life around
not a bird in the sky
not a dog on the street
not a fly, a mosquito, a roach
a nuclear landscape
absent the fallout
A Third World Country
within our borders
designed by our nurturing mother
Nature
and our national step-father
Negligence
and we knew
there was no going home

the stench and black mold
took our breath away
we backed off
donned masks and gloves
went back in
found only remnants
of our former life
untouched, undefiled
by the holocaust of inadequacy
a vase my brother gave me
years before he died
a box of old photographs
I had sealed in plastic
and a few dishes
above the water line
in a closed cabinet
the only place the rats
couldn't get
the only things they did not
urinate or deficate on

outside for air
we see our fifty foot Magnolia
defoliated, naked, but for the
name carved on her by my love
my name told the world
this was once home
to two kindred souls
beside the tree, the bamboo

I cried at the sight of that
stand of bamboo, tall
and proud, though thinner
having lost weight on
the Katrina diet, as we had
she danced defiantly in the
autumn breeze
and screamed life
in the face of death

we had only a few hours
before curfew forced us out
we sat on the porch
that we loved so much
and remembered
and cried
and knew
there was
no going home
for any of us

copyright 2006 rhonda lee richoux



Saturday, July 08, 2006

Peace of Mind

Things here in the Third World, USA, are not good. Politicians are putting our lives in their pockets. There is debris on the streets...no, it's not debris. It's broken dreams, lost jobs, dismantled families out on the streets of the American South. Those of us who were not killed by Katrina are being killed by the government...or suffering the slow, cancerous death of pollution. I'm fighting the good fight, but oh, how I miss having peace of mind. And Oh, how I miss my family and friends. Posted by Picasa

Thursday, April 27, 2006



I'm living in St. Bernard Parish, Louisiana. The Third World, USA. It's 8 months post-Katrina. There is debris on the streets from people who have come back to gut their homes and try to start over. We are living in FEMA trailers. The toilets back up regularly, because the city drainage system is not working. It floods whenever it rains. They have a TRUCK located in the middle of the parish pumping the drains. ONE TRUCK. There are no supermarkets, no clothing stores. We have a HOME DEPOT which recently opened, various food trucks around town, a couple of restaurants, 3 or 4 gas stations, and about TEN bars. The bars were the first things to open. You see what the parish priorities are, huh? Open the bars for the working men. Get them taxes. Write them tickets. At 2:00 a.m. the deputies are stationed near the bars instead of on the streets stopping the looting. Looting is the most widespread crime here. I've been a victim, several times.

The filth around here is depressing. The smell sickening. We have to negotiate around piles of debris to drive down just about any side street. Some of us are still waiting for our FEMA trailers, and some of us have been given trailers but no keys to them. Some have trailers and keys, but no electricity. All of us are on edge, because we have been placed in limbo by our government and are not being given answers by our elected officials. The sheriff, Jack Stephens, is an asshole bully, and so are many of his deputies. I respect those few who wear their uniforms with honor.

Nothing seems to be getting done down here, and the Parish Council seems to be satisfied with "politics as usual" at a time when we need radical solutions and a sense of urgency. I don't know what will happen to us. Whatever happens, I know it will happen very slowly.

I'm researching my mother's family history for a book I am writing. It keeps me busy and gives me something to do when I'm not helping someone gut their house or search for something in the rubble. I try to go to the various meetings so that I can pass the information on to my family members, all homeowners who have relocated to higher ground. Their homes are sitting here eight months later just as they were after the storm, except without the 10-20 feet of water. They happen to live in the neighborhoods that sustained the most floodwaters, and have not been told definitively by our government whether they can rebuild or whether the government will raze their neighborhood and turn it into "greenspace". The waiting is making them anxious. They can't move on and get it behind them. There is no closure. Limbo is a bad place to live.

I don't know yet what the end of the story is. I don't know how long Eddie and I will be able to stay here. But we'll try. I want this place to come alive again. It's full of history, and it's one of the places my ancestors, Felipe Madriaga and Bridgett Nugent, lived back in the mid nineteenth century. Felipe was a fisherman, and I want the fishermen in this parish to come back, to do well, and preserve the peculiar culture of this area.

I hope I live to see that happen.

Thursday, March 16, 2006


Surviving Katrina

On Sunday, August 28, 2005, I was awakened at 7:00 a.m. by the phone. It was my sister, Tracy. She knew that Eddie and I had planned on riding out Hurricane Katrina, not in our mobile home, but at my parents' home, which was brick and had an upper level. We'd been through hurricanes and tropical storms before. T.S. Cindy had blown through St. Bernard Parish a month earlier. It was part of life in Southeast Louisiana.

"It's a Catagory 5!" Tracy told me. I sat up in bed and said, "Oh, my God! I'll call you back!"
I shook Eddie, and said, "It's a Cat 5! We gotta GO!"

Eddie jumped up when he heard that Hurricane Katrina, a Cat 3 storm when we went to bed the night before, had flared up to a 5 overnight. We decided to pack up and leave. The problem was, I was to hole up at my mother's house, so I had told her the day before just to pack and leave, I'd pick things up off the floor for her and secure the yard when I got there. Now, before I could secure my own home, I had to go to her home to secure it as I had promised.

I went to the house at 2821 Plaza Drive and began to transfer things from the ground floor to the upper level: her doll collection, her computer, her nice dresses from the downstairs closet; anything I could think of. She had left her two parakeets there, too. I overfilled their food, gave them fresh water, and brought them upstairs, hoping we'd be back in a couple of days. We expected the lower level to flood: it had flooded several times before during spring rains. But we never expected the water to reach the upper level. I dragged her heavy potted plants in as close to the house as I could, secured whatever I could, and went back inside. Something came over me. I had a bad feeling. I went upstairs and shut all the doors, in case water came rushing in. I thought the doors would slow the water intrusion long enough for it to begin receding before it reached the top of the beds.

I called my brother in law, Clayton, who NEVER evacuated. Period. He didn't pick up the phone. I left a message: "Clayton, if you insist on staying, please come here to mom's house. It's higher than your house and you'll be safer. I'll leave a key in the shoe." I was referring to the wooden shoe on a window ledge where mom left her keys for us when she wasn't home. Her home was always open to us, no matter what. I called my niece, Shannon, and told her that she and her husband, Josh, should go to Mississippi, to Tracy's summer home, with us. She said it would be too crowded over there. I told her, "Well, you can't stay, Shannon! Get in the car and just head north and west, and don't stop until you're far enough away to be safe." I called Tracy and told her we would come to her house to ride out the storm. We knew we would get the winds, but at least, where she was, we wouldn't get any floodwaters.

Eddie had gone to gas up the truck and get ice. When I got back home, he took the car to get gas. He said that there was only one place still open, and the guy was price gouging, but what could we do? He told me to pack him one change of clothes, we'd only be gone a day. But that's not what my heart told me. I packed two suitcases and two backpacks with as many clothes and toiletries as I could fit. I jammed boxes of photo albums, the research I had done on my family history, and computer backup disks into my car. What I couldn't fit, I wrapped in plastic bags and secured with duct tape, placing it as high as I could. This included a large box of family photos that just wouldn't fit into the car. I looked for my journals, which I had been writing since I was a teenager. I couldn't find them anywhere. By this time, Eddie had come back, and it was time to go. It was 2:30 in the afternoon.

I took CoCo, our cat, in the old Cadillac with me. Eddie took Chanel, our 12 and a half year old Chinese Shar-Pei, in the '69 Ford truck with him. We flew out of town....until we hit I-10. It took us 6 hours to make what would normally be a 45 minute trip. It was almost dark when we arrived. We enjoyed the airconditioning after our hot ride, and we decided to make it an early night. The winds had already picked up, and I knew they'd be waking me up early.

I woke up at 5:30 a.m. to the sound of the wind. I went downstairs to make coffee, trying not to wake anyone up. Eddie and my brother in law, Rene, woke up and joined me in a cup of coffee. By the time I got up to start a second pot of coffee, the electricity went out. I took a flashlight upstairs to the room where my step-dad was, so that he could see when he woke up. He asked me what I was doing. "The lights are out already. I brought you a flashlight."

Eventually, the noise of the wind woke the whole household up: Tracy had invited her neighbor from St. Bernard Parish and his family to stay there, too. There were times when it sounded like the wind was tearing the house apart. The noise was unbearably loud. At other times, the guys would go out to the porch facing away from the direction of the wind, and just watch things blowing by. Then, the pine trees started uprooting and falling over.

My sister had 21 pine trees on her property. The first one to go just fell over into her garden. The second one clipped the front of Eddie's truck, knocking out the headlight. By the time they stopped falling, every one of our vehicles was damaged. A large tree fell on the roof in the back of the house, crushing the kitchen door frame and cracking the ceiling. Another fell by the front door, where the guys had stupidly been standing, and almost hit them. There was only one small, skinny pine tree left standing when the wind finally stopped.

Mike and his family left the next day. He didn't know where he was going, but he insisted on going. We had no idea what bridges were out, and there was no news on the radio about St. Bernard Parish. We didn't know if Clayton and our other friends and relatives, who had refused to leave, were dead or alive. We didn't know if Shannon and Josh had found safety. We didn't know where the rest of our family had evacuated to. The phone lines were down, and so were the towers, so our cell phones didn't work. The men had to cut through the sea of pine trees just so that we could get to the street to see what the neighborhood looked like.

The heat was unbearable. The water was shut off. The men had to go to the lake to gather water in garbage cans and buckets so that we could flush the toilets. We had no ice. They worked on Rene's old generator, and finally got it working. We would use it for a few hours at a time, just to keep the food in the refrigerator from going bad. He hooked up a fan, but it didn't help. The dogs and cat were as miserable as we were. We rationed our water, but the food was largely uneaten. None of us had an appetite. We were so dehydrated that we couldn't sweat any more, and barely urinated.

One night, at about 3:00 a.m., my stepdad came in from his bed on the porch and said, "The phone is on! Wake up! The phone is on!!" His phone had picked up a signal. We all turned our phones on, and sure enough, we had a signal. But we still couldn't get a call out. We were able to retrieve our messages...they were heartwrenching pleas from our family to call them. They needed to know if we had survived. I had several messages from my "wife-in-law" Marquette. She was my second husband's second wife, the mother of my step children. She left as many messages as my mom did! She and I had formed a friendship while I was married to Jerry. We did it for the welfare of the children, but found that we really liked each other, and our friendship has lasted though the kids are grown and my marriage ended. She and my brother in Oregon were the only two people we could reach by phone. Then Tracy tried a text message. She sent a message to Shannon, telling her we're alive, and asking if she is okay. She recieved a reply: "Thank God!"

That was one of the happiest moments of my life. Re-connecting with my family lifted my spirits, lifted all of our spirits, and gave us renewed strength and courage. Eddie and I stayed for eight days in Mississippi, and then left in our broken cars to meet up with the rest of our family. They had found shelter at the Jimmie Davis State Park in northern Louisiana, and they said that we could stay there free. We made it there on a wing and a prayer, but we made it there. When I saw their faces, well, there are really no words to describe how I felt. I will never forget the feeling, nor will I ever take my family for granted. When I saw Clayton's face, I thought my heart would burst with joy. He had spent 3 days on his rooftop before he was rescued. He had experienced hell, but he couldn't yet talk about it. That was okay. I was happy just to talk about the weather with him.

We stayed in Jackson Parish for several months, and made the decision to return to St. Bernard Parish. We wanted to be a part of the clean up and rebuilding. The rest of my family, except for my mom's sister Joyce and her family, have moved to higher ground. The closeness of family, the friendly community that I had loved so much, are gone. Things are going slowly here, but that's another blog. I'll just say this: I survived Katrina just to drown in bullshit. But, things will get better, right? They have to get better.

Tuesday, August 31, 2004

A Personal Manifesto

Changed By Love
A Personal Manifesto


I've had bad things happen to me in my life, but I will not use that as an excuse to act badly.

I choose to get my energy from the goodness I've been exposed to. I choose not to feed on the negative forces that have surrounded me at different times in my life.

I choose love over hate, not because I am naive and innocent, but because I've seen what hate does to a soul. I will not have that inside me!

I will respect my elders, because they have tread the path before me and made it easier.

I will respect my peers, because I know we each have our battles to fight, our obstacles to overcome, our broken hearts.

I will respect the children and young adults in my life, because they still have to travel the hard parts that are behind me now. I offer myself to them to lead when they need guidance, and to serve when they are broken.

I will live my life as honestly as I can, reflecting daily on my actions and my motives to see if I could have done things differently and achieved a better result. I will always strive for better results, even in those small things that no one else will ever see.

On the other hand....

I will not be so uptight about my life that I forget how to smile, how to laugh, how to forgive, how to apologize, how to rest, how to dance, how to have a water fight, how to love my cat even when I have to scoop up her shit.

I am happy because I choose to be.

I am beautiful because I choose to see myself that way.

I am content to embrace my imperfections. In my youth, I always held myself up to an impossible standard, and set myself up for one failure after another. I refuse to do that to myself ever again.

This life is not long, it is not easy, but it is the only life I have. As Jimi Hendrix once said, "I'm the one that's gotta die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to." (If 6 was 9)

I choose to believe in God, to love my country, to look for the lesson in every trial, to look for the
good in every person.

I refuse to be changed by evil. I choose to be changed by love.

Rhonda Lee Richoux
a.k.a. The Last Flower Child
http://thelastflowerchild.tripod.com/

Monday, August 02, 2004

The Flip Club

The Flip Club
by Rhonda Richoux Fox


Growing up in New Orleans, I didn't feel out of place with my Cajun name (Richoux) and my brown skin (courtesy my Filipino grandparents). New Orleans is a city of diverse cultures, and each neighborhood seemed like the center of the universe to its inhabitants. It was certainly the center of my universe, because just about everybody I knew and loved lived in the Fauberg Marigny, right outside of the French Quarter.

Grandma and Grandpa Burtanog lived next door to us. They always had relatives living with them who had come on hard times. Grandma and Grandpa Richoux lived across the street. My daddy, divorced from my mom, stayed there when he wasn't at sea. My uncle Frank Reyes lived on the corner, in a big house that seemed to hold half the neighborhood. It didn't dawn on me until I was older that some of those Filipino men I saw at the house were not relatives, but seamen who boarded at Uncle Frank's house. And then, there was a Filipino Club somewhere in the neighborhood at one time or the other.

The ethnic clubs in New Orleans provided places for Americans to preserve their heritage and to meet new immigrants from the mother countries. There were meetings, dinners, dances, and card games. Old-world traditions mixed with new, and our Filipino clubs had an annual Mardi Gras Ball. My mother, Lillian Mae Burtanog, was queen of the Mardi Gras Ball presented by the Caballeros de Dimas-Alang in 1946. With her beauty and grace, she was again crowned Queen of Mardi Gras thirty-six years later, by the Filipino-American Goodwill Society, in 1982.

I have very fond memories of the Filipino-American Goodwill Society. The club house was located on Touro Street just off of North Rampart, right across the street from Uncle Frank's house. When we were teenagers, there were dances on Saturday night, and all of the generations met there. My friend, Robert Hurst, who later married my cousin Lynnie, tried to read the name of the club on the door, and mistakenly pronounced it "Flipino" instead of "Filipino", which left us in stitches and forever changed the name of the place to "The Flip Club" My mother didn't like the name, but to us, it was cool, and it made the club seem more in tune with our generation. Today, when my mom reminisces with us, she even calls it "The Flip Club"!

The Flip Club taught me so much. It kept me in touch with my ancestral roots, kept me in tune with what it means to be Filipino in America, taught me about family, politics, and history. Families met there, politicians spoke there, and our history was part of the daily conversation there. Once painfully shy, I found my voice at the Flip Club, when my mother asked me to be mistress of ceremonies at one of the annual balls. That job involved researching the theme of the ball and writing something clever to describe each of the costumes worn by the participants. Eventually, I became so good at giving presentations that my mother and I presented a Mardi Gras Ball for the delegates of the 1980 Republican National Convention.

In 1980, Marina Espina became the first woman president of the Flip Club. Mrs. Espina was fascinated by the family stories she heard from our club members, and her research resulted in a book, "Filipinos In Louisiana" in 1988. She has spread our family history far and wide, and our family has since been documented in film and articles around the country. She gave Filipinos their proper place in Louisiana history, and our family even more to be proud of. I don't think that would have happened had we not had The Flip Club as our meeting place.

To my sorrow, our beloved Flip Club is no more. As the older members began to pass, and the new generation had more pressing things to attend to, the membership dwindled and the club was closed. There are, of course, other Filipino and Asian clubs around town that still thrive, but there will never be another with neighborhood feel of The Flip Club. I miss the community, the friendly people, the conversation. But, there is one thing that still feels like home to me. No matter where in the country I may be, if I meet a Filipino and tell him of my heritage, I'm guaranteed a smile and a good conversation.


The Book: by Marina E. Espina: Filipinos In Louisiana ©1980 Marina Espina
Films in which my family history is documented:
Dancing The Shrimp by James and Isabel Kenny, Magic Lantern Films
My America (...or HONK IF YOU LOVE BUDDHA) by Renee Tajima-Pena