Thursday, March 16, 2006


Surviving Katrina

On Sunday, August 28, 2005, I was awakened at 7:00 a.m. by the phone. It was my sister, Tracy. She knew that Eddie and I had planned on riding out Hurricane Katrina, not in our mobile home, but at my parents' home, which was brick and had an upper level. We'd been through hurricanes and tropical storms before. T.S. Cindy had blown through St. Bernard Parish a month earlier. It was part of life in Southeast Louisiana.

"It's a Catagory 5!" Tracy told me. I sat up in bed and said, "Oh, my God! I'll call you back!"
I shook Eddie, and said, "It's a Cat 5! We gotta GO!"

Eddie jumped up when he heard that Hurricane Katrina, a Cat 3 storm when we went to bed the night before, had flared up to a 5 overnight. We decided to pack up and leave. The problem was, I was to hole up at my mother's house, so I had told her the day before just to pack and leave, I'd pick things up off the floor for her and secure the yard when I got there. Now, before I could secure my own home, I had to go to her home to secure it as I had promised.

I went to the house at 2821 Plaza Drive and began to transfer things from the ground floor to the upper level: her doll collection, her computer, her nice dresses from the downstairs closet; anything I could think of. She had left her two parakeets there, too. I overfilled their food, gave them fresh water, and brought them upstairs, hoping we'd be back in a couple of days. We expected the lower level to flood: it had flooded several times before during spring rains. But we never expected the water to reach the upper level. I dragged her heavy potted plants in as close to the house as I could, secured whatever I could, and went back inside. Something came over me. I had a bad feeling. I went upstairs and shut all the doors, in case water came rushing in. I thought the doors would slow the water intrusion long enough for it to begin receding before it reached the top of the beds.

I called my brother in law, Clayton, who NEVER evacuated. Period. He didn't pick up the phone. I left a message: "Clayton, if you insist on staying, please come here to mom's house. It's higher than your house and you'll be safer. I'll leave a key in the shoe." I was referring to the wooden shoe on a window ledge where mom left her keys for us when she wasn't home. Her home was always open to us, no matter what. I called my niece, Shannon, and told her that she and her husband, Josh, should go to Mississippi, to Tracy's summer home, with us. She said it would be too crowded over there. I told her, "Well, you can't stay, Shannon! Get in the car and just head north and west, and don't stop until you're far enough away to be safe." I called Tracy and told her we would come to her house to ride out the storm. We knew we would get the winds, but at least, where she was, we wouldn't get any floodwaters.

Eddie had gone to gas up the truck and get ice. When I got back home, he took the car to get gas. He said that there was only one place still open, and the guy was price gouging, but what could we do? He told me to pack him one change of clothes, we'd only be gone a day. But that's not what my heart told me. I packed two suitcases and two backpacks with as many clothes and toiletries as I could fit. I jammed boxes of photo albums, the research I had done on my family history, and computer backup disks into my car. What I couldn't fit, I wrapped in plastic bags and secured with duct tape, placing it as high as I could. This included a large box of family photos that just wouldn't fit into the car. I looked for my journals, which I had been writing since I was a teenager. I couldn't find them anywhere. By this time, Eddie had come back, and it was time to go. It was 2:30 in the afternoon.

I took CoCo, our cat, in the old Cadillac with me. Eddie took Chanel, our 12 and a half year old Chinese Shar-Pei, in the '69 Ford truck with him. We flew out of town....until we hit I-10. It took us 6 hours to make what would normally be a 45 minute trip. It was almost dark when we arrived. We enjoyed the airconditioning after our hot ride, and we decided to make it an early night. The winds had already picked up, and I knew they'd be waking me up early.

I woke up at 5:30 a.m. to the sound of the wind. I went downstairs to make coffee, trying not to wake anyone up. Eddie and my brother in law, Rene, woke up and joined me in a cup of coffee. By the time I got up to start a second pot of coffee, the electricity went out. I took a flashlight upstairs to the room where my step-dad was, so that he could see when he woke up. He asked me what I was doing. "The lights are out already. I brought you a flashlight."

Eventually, the noise of the wind woke the whole household up: Tracy had invited her neighbor from St. Bernard Parish and his family to stay there, too. There were times when it sounded like the wind was tearing the house apart. The noise was unbearably loud. At other times, the guys would go out to the porch facing away from the direction of the wind, and just watch things blowing by. Then, the pine trees started uprooting and falling over.

My sister had 21 pine trees on her property. The first one to go just fell over into her garden. The second one clipped the front of Eddie's truck, knocking out the headlight. By the time they stopped falling, every one of our vehicles was damaged. A large tree fell on the roof in the back of the house, crushing the kitchen door frame and cracking the ceiling. Another fell by the front door, where the guys had stupidly been standing, and almost hit them. There was only one small, skinny pine tree left standing when the wind finally stopped.

Mike and his family left the next day. He didn't know where he was going, but he insisted on going. We had no idea what bridges were out, and there was no news on the radio about St. Bernard Parish. We didn't know if Clayton and our other friends and relatives, who had refused to leave, were dead or alive. We didn't know if Shannon and Josh had found safety. We didn't know where the rest of our family had evacuated to. The phone lines were down, and so were the towers, so our cell phones didn't work. The men had to cut through the sea of pine trees just so that we could get to the street to see what the neighborhood looked like.

The heat was unbearable. The water was shut off. The men had to go to the lake to gather water in garbage cans and buckets so that we could flush the toilets. We had no ice. They worked on Rene's old generator, and finally got it working. We would use it for a few hours at a time, just to keep the food in the refrigerator from going bad. He hooked up a fan, but it didn't help. The dogs and cat were as miserable as we were. We rationed our water, but the food was largely uneaten. None of us had an appetite. We were so dehydrated that we couldn't sweat any more, and barely urinated.

One night, at about 3:00 a.m., my stepdad came in from his bed on the porch and said, "The phone is on! Wake up! The phone is on!!" His phone had picked up a signal. We all turned our phones on, and sure enough, we had a signal. But we still couldn't get a call out. We were able to retrieve our messages...they were heartwrenching pleas from our family to call them. They needed to know if we had survived. I had several messages from my "wife-in-law" Marquette. She was my second husband's second wife, the mother of my step children. She left as many messages as my mom did! She and I had formed a friendship while I was married to Jerry. We did it for the welfare of the children, but found that we really liked each other, and our friendship has lasted though the kids are grown and my marriage ended. She and my brother in Oregon were the only two people we could reach by phone. Then Tracy tried a text message. She sent a message to Shannon, telling her we're alive, and asking if she is okay. She recieved a reply: "Thank God!"

That was one of the happiest moments of my life. Re-connecting with my family lifted my spirits, lifted all of our spirits, and gave us renewed strength and courage. Eddie and I stayed for eight days in Mississippi, and then left in our broken cars to meet up with the rest of our family. They had found shelter at the Jimmie Davis State Park in northern Louisiana, and they said that we could stay there free. We made it there on a wing and a prayer, but we made it there. When I saw their faces, well, there are really no words to describe how I felt. I will never forget the feeling, nor will I ever take my family for granted. When I saw Clayton's face, I thought my heart would burst with joy. He had spent 3 days on his rooftop before he was rescued. He had experienced hell, but he couldn't yet talk about it. That was okay. I was happy just to talk about the weather with him.

We stayed in Jackson Parish for several months, and made the decision to return to St. Bernard Parish. We wanted to be a part of the clean up and rebuilding. The rest of my family, except for my mom's sister Joyce and her family, have moved to higher ground. The closeness of family, the friendly community that I had loved so much, are gone. Things are going slowly here, but that's another blog. I'll just say this: I survived Katrina just to drown in bullshit. But, things will get better, right? They have to get better.

Tuesday, August 31, 2004

A Personal Manifesto

Changed By Love
A Personal Manifesto


I've had bad things happen to me in my life, but I will not use that as an excuse to act badly.

I choose to get my energy from the goodness I've been exposed to. I choose not to feed on the negative forces that have surrounded me at different times in my life.

I choose love over hate, not because I am naive and innocent, but because I've seen what hate does to a soul. I will not have that inside me!

I will respect my elders, because they have tread the path before me and made it easier.

I will respect my peers, because I know we each have our battles to fight, our obstacles to overcome, our broken hearts.

I will respect the children and young adults in my life, because they still have to travel the hard parts that are behind me now. I offer myself to them to lead when they need guidance, and to serve when they are broken.

I will live my life as honestly as I can, reflecting daily on my actions and my motives to see if I could have done things differently and achieved a better result. I will always strive for better results, even in those small things that no one else will ever see.

On the other hand....

I will not be so uptight about my life that I forget how to smile, how to laugh, how to forgive, how to apologize, how to rest, how to dance, how to have a water fight, how to love my cat even when I have to scoop up her shit.

I am happy because I choose to be.

I am beautiful because I choose to see myself that way.

I am content to embrace my imperfections. In my youth, I always held myself up to an impossible standard, and set myself up for one failure after another. I refuse to do that to myself ever again.

This life is not long, it is not easy, but it is the only life I have. As Jimi Hendrix once said, "I'm the one that's gotta die when it's time for me to die, so let me live my life the way I want to." (If 6 was 9)

I choose to believe in God, to love my country, to look for the lesson in every trial, to look for the
good in every person.

I refuse to be changed by evil. I choose to be changed by love.

Rhonda Lee Richoux
a.k.a. The Last Flower Child
http://thelastflowerchild.tripod.com/

Monday, August 02, 2004

The Flip Club

The Flip Club
by Rhonda Richoux Fox


Growing up in New Orleans, I didn't feel out of place with my Cajun name (Richoux) and my brown skin (courtesy my Filipino grandparents). New Orleans is a city of diverse cultures, and each neighborhood seemed like the center of the universe to its inhabitants. It was certainly the center of my universe, because just about everybody I knew and loved lived in the Fauberg Marigny, right outside of the French Quarter.

Grandma and Grandpa Burtanog lived next door to us. They always had relatives living with them who had come on hard times. Grandma and Grandpa Richoux lived across the street. My daddy, divorced from my mom, stayed there when he wasn't at sea. My uncle Frank Reyes lived on the corner, in a big house that seemed to hold half the neighborhood. It didn't dawn on me until I was older that some of those Filipino men I saw at the house were not relatives, but seamen who boarded at Uncle Frank's house. And then, there was a Filipino Club somewhere in the neighborhood at one time or the other.

The ethnic clubs in New Orleans provided places for Americans to preserve their heritage and to meet new immigrants from the mother countries. There were meetings, dinners, dances, and card games. Old-world traditions mixed with new, and our Filipino clubs had an annual Mardi Gras Ball. My mother, Lillian Mae Burtanog, was queen of the Mardi Gras Ball presented by the Caballeros de Dimas-Alang in 1946. With her beauty and grace, she was again crowned Queen of Mardi Gras thirty-six years later, by the Filipino-American Goodwill Society, in 1982.

I have very fond memories of the Filipino-American Goodwill Society. The club house was located on Touro Street just off of North Rampart, right across the street from Uncle Frank's house. When we were teenagers, there were dances on Saturday night, and all of the generations met there. My friend, Robert Hurst, who later married my cousin Lynnie, tried to read the name of the club on the door, and mistakenly pronounced it "Flipino" instead of "Filipino", which left us in stitches and forever changed the name of the place to "The Flip Club" My mother didn't like the name, but to us, it was cool, and it made the club seem more in tune with our generation. Today, when my mom reminisces with us, she even calls it "The Flip Club"!

The Flip Club taught me so much. It kept me in touch with my ancestral roots, kept me in tune with what it means to be Filipino in America, taught me about family, politics, and history. Families met there, politicians spoke there, and our history was part of the daily conversation there. Once painfully shy, I found my voice at the Flip Club, when my mother asked me to be mistress of ceremonies at one of the annual balls. That job involved researching the theme of the ball and writing something clever to describe each of the costumes worn by the participants. Eventually, I became so good at giving presentations that my mother and I presented a Mardi Gras Ball for the delegates of the 1980 Republican National Convention.

In 1980, Marina Espina became the first woman president of the Flip Club. Mrs. Espina was fascinated by the family stories she heard from our club members, and her research resulted in a book, "Filipinos In Louisiana" in 1988. She has spread our family history far and wide, and our family has since been documented in film and articles around the country. She gave Filipinos their proper place in Louisiana history, and our family even more to be proud of. I don't think that would have happened had we not had The Flip Club as our meeting place.

To my sorrow, our beloved Flip Club is no more. As the older members began to pass, and the new generation had more pressing things to attend to, the membership dwindled and the club was closed. There are, of course, other Filipino and Asian clubs around town that still thrive, but there will never be another with neighborhood feel of The Flip Club. I miss the community, the friendly people, the conversation. But, there is one thing that still feels like home to me. No matter where in the country I may be, if I meet a Filipino and tell him of my heritage, I'm guaranteed a smile and a good conversation.


The Book: by Marina E. Espina: Filipinos In Louisiana ©1980 Marina Espina
Films in which my family history is documented:
Dancing The Shrimp by James and Isabel Kenny, Magic Lantern Films
My America (...or HONK IF YOU LOVE BUDDHA) by Renee Tajima-Pena

Tuesday, July 20, 2004


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